Bruce Fisher – Rebuilding when your relationship ends

Created on Sunday, 29 March 2009 13:23

The end of a relationship can be difficult. Whether you are the one who initiates the break-up or are on the receiving end of it, "Rebuilding," is a helpful tool to move you through the grieving process, to work through the pain of the breakup.

Alberti & Fisher provide a comprehensive outline in the form of building blocks, in short, concise chapters, which gives the reader something simple & concrete to hold onto without being bogged down in psychobabble. I recommend this book to my clients often when they feel hopeless about working through the ending of their own relationships, and find that what they get out of the book provides them opportunities for growth and hope.

M. Scott Peck – People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil

Created on Thursday, 26 March 2009 21:11

If you have ever experienced or been frustrated by people who seem to have a hidden agenda then you will enjoy and benefit from this book. The author states (some are paraphrased) and explains the following:

1. The evil hide their motives with lies.
2. Evil people want to appear to be good.
3. When confronted by evil, the wisest and most secure adult will usually experience confusion.
4. Evil seeks to discourage others to think for themselves (fosters dependency).
5. To oppose evil we must have an ongoing dedication to reality at all cost.

I agree that to be mentally healthy we must believe what is true and only what is true. After reading this book you will be better equipped to deal with people who cause strife and confusion. It will also help you identify thought patterns where you are lying to yourself.

Peter McWilliams – You can’t afford the luxury of a negative thought

Created on Thursday, 26 March 2009 21:05

This excellent book is divided into 2 parts: The disease and the cure, and the latter consists of 3 sections: Accentuate the positive, Eliminate the negative and Latch onto the affirmative. It explains the fight or flight response, the effect thoughts have on the body, and the question of death.

 It also deals with mourning, how to focus on the positive and has a useful section on depression. Suitable quotes by inter alia Freud, Santayana, Voltaire, Emerson, Russell, Shaw, Anais Nin, Epicurus, Whitman, Keller, Hippocrates, Oscar Wilde and Maria Montessori enhance the text and help to explain things.

I would not say that it is absolutely the best self-help book I've ever read, but it casts welcome new light on this thing called "common sense." It is a pleasure to read and I highly recommend it.


Peter McWilliams – Life 101

Created on Thursday, 26 March 2009 21:23

Three things about this book that stand out:

1. At first glance, it may seem like very deep philosophy but the authors use a writing style that makes it difficult to accept this as serious philosophy. The authors have a unique writing style where it feels like they are someone you know well that are telling you this stuff at a dinner table. Maybe, they are trying to get their points across by writing this way since the average person avoids heavy philosophy books.

2. You can open the book anywhere and start reading without losing the gist of what the authors are saying. The hundreds of topics are written in an independent way that makes it easy to read any one of them without missing anything that the authors are trying to communicate. There are plenty of proverbs, quotations and deep philosophical insights in each topic (each topic is not more than 2-3 pages long).

3. The most striking thing about the book is the way in which the authors address each and every topic. They talk about things that most of us have been taught not to discuss in public. Some of their statements sound like cliches, but somehow the authors manage to keep the words in each topic interconnected and not seem out of place.

A lot of people have the attitude that they are better than this book. By writing in a simplistic way, it is possible that the authors are responsible for creating that impression in the reader's mind (this is simple and irrelevant stuff, no need to write a book about it). But this is one of the best books out there on Life. I would definitely recommend that you own a copy of this book and read it cover to cover whenever you have a few minutes to kill. It is very easy reading but fulfilling at the same time. Enjoy!